Tom Daley is dating a guy. But should we even care?

That’s right world – I’m back on wordpress. It’s been nearly six long months but I’m here once more, and what better thing to write about than the recent news that Tom Daley, Olympic diver for Great Britain and heartthrob for teen girls all over the world, has revealed that he’s now in a relationship with another guy.

In case you’ve been living under a rock and missed this (for some reason) headlining news, he released a video in which he spoke about the situation, the loss of his dad, and Rio 2016. Have a watch at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJwJnoB9EKw if you feel like you’re missing out.

It’s safe to say that people have held varying views about Daley’s recent admission. Just looking down the #TomDaley tag on twitter, it’s not particularly difficult to come across homophobic tweets even from people who before considered themselves fans of his; @eden_edge explained “tom daley is a queer, now get the fag off my trends list”, whilst @alltomyself mentioned “Tom Daley is gay I am now ashamed of my country ew we can’t have a bloody fag representing us”. Of course, right at the other end of the spectrum famous faces and normal citizens alike have been wishing Tom nothing but the best; @MattyFreeman told the twittersphere that he was “proud of Tom Daley” going to to explain “I don’t see the big fuss though and the hate, he is bi, accept it” and legend @StephenFry tweeting “I opened the second door on my advent calendar and Tom Daley came out. Seriously @TomDaley1994 congratulations. So happy for you.”

Now, this is my blog, and by reading it you’re obliged to accept that at some point in every entry my opinion is going to be made known, and it’s not going to be subtle. This is that part. Yes, okay… maybe we could have called it before, but I have nothing but massive respect for Tom for confirming people’s suspicions in such a bold way. Ignoring the fact that newspapers and magazines would probably have paid him a vast, vast amount of money to have the exclusive interview, he videod himself and stuck it on youtube. No editing, no script, no PR agent telling him which angle he needs to approach it from. It was all him. And it would have taken guts. 

At the end of the day, he is a person. And he is dating another person. And that makes him happy. It doesn’t matter whether that person is male or female, he’s happy and at the end of the day, that’s all we should ever want anybody to be. I’ve never been the biggest fan of his, but my respect for him is through the roof. People who know me will know that I’m an avid supporter of gay rights and marriage, despite not being gay myself. At the end of the day, this shouldn’t be news. It shouldn’t be something anybody – famous or not – has to make a video about, or try and justify. As he says in his video, he doesn’t think it should be a big deal. And neither do I. He’s happy and he’s in a relationship. Good for him, that should be that.

On that basis, there isn’t really a lot more to say about the issue apart from congratulating him on lifting what I’m sure was quite a heavy weight from his shoulders.

Good for you, Tom. Good for you..

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I’m bored, let’s send some hate?

There’s something that bothers me about websites such as twitter, facebook, tumblr, and whatever ever else you might find yourself scrolling through the pages of. What is it that bothers me? It’s the people who send hate to celebrities they’ve never met. Being a law student, I’m well aware that we have certain freedoms in many countries of the world – one of them being freedom of expression, i.e we’re allowed to say what we want. I encourage that freedom, but as with all good things, I feel there’s a limit.

I logged into twitter the other day (follow me at @7R15) and saw at least three people on my timeline sending some kind of hate to celebrities. If I remember correctly, two of the tweets were aimed at Selena Gomez, whilst another was headed towards Miley Cyrus. They weren’t pleasant, and I won’t repeat them – but you can probably use your imagination. It just frustrates me when people do this.

Take me, for example. I am not a fan of Justin Bieber’s music. I am not a fan of One Direction’s music. I don’t find Gerard Butler movies funny. But I don’t take that opinion, turn it into a hatred of the person themself, and take to twitter to send them hate messages. Not finding a scene out of The Bounty Hunter doesn’t make me want to send “I f*cking hate you, you piece of sh*t” to Gerard Butler. The annoying Baby, Baby, Baby Oooooh of Justin Bieber’s song doesn’t translate to a “You should die” tweet to JB. And it shouldn’t have to! I’ve never met these people, I don’t know what they’re like. In fact, they seem pretty decent for the best part.

People don’t seem to take this into consideration before sending these hateful messages to people they’ve never met over the internet. Imagine logging into twitter and finding thousands of hateful tweets in your mentions, or turning on your facebook to see your fanpage filled with derogatory things about you. I don’t imagine it’s a particularly nice experience.

And then there are the fangirls. I mean, seriously. I’m not talking about the “Yay! The Jonas Brothers concert is in three days! I’m doing to do nothing else but tweet lyrics from their songs until then!” fangirls. No. I’m talking about the sending-death-threats-to-Selena-Gomez-for-dating-their-favourite-singer fangirls. This needs to stop. Firstly, it doesn’t even make sense – okay, so you’ve “in love” with Justin Bieber. Why then would you want to try and jeopardize his perfectly happy relationship with the girl he wants to be with? That doesn’t make any sense to me at all. Just because you try and get them to break up (good luck with that, by the way – your tweet will have no effect) doesn’t mean that he’ll automatically come running to you, to cry on your shoulder. You’ve never met him. You probably never will. So get a grip.

Celebrities are – for the best part – there to make people happy. Sure, some of them are clinging with their fingertips with all they have to the platform they once stood on, and you just wish they’d give up and go away (ahem, Katie Price) – but their acting, or their singing… it makes people happy. Maybe not you, but others. And trying to put down somebody just for doing what they love to do and living the dream they’ve always wanted is ridiculous. Think about how it would effect you, if every day hundreds of people sent you messages of hate, just for doing what you enjoy.

If you like them, fine. By all means let them know. And if you don’t – well, my mum had a saying whilst I was growing up: if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

More than just a blog.

A large number of people don’t understand my addiction interest in sites such as twitter, tumblr, and even wordpress. “They’re pointless,” they often say, “you’re just talking to a load of people you don’t know, saying things that nobody cares about.”

I’ll give them that – I don’t know the vast majority of my twitter followers or the people I follow on tumblr. And a lot of the time, people probably don’t care about what I update on these sites. But there’s more to them than just that.

I’ve met some amazing people through these sites. People who, even though I haven’t necessarily met in person, I speak to on almost a daily basis. People that I wish I grew up knowing, and people who I can even talk about things with that I couldn’t approach my actual friends with. Maybe the anonymity of hiding behind a laptop screen helps people speak so easily to others on these websites, or maybe it’s just the fact that nothing you say will be taken too seriously that lets you say what you want, when you want. Whatever it is that makes these websites so addictive – it works.

The likes of twitter and tumblr have introduced me to new people it’s likely I’d have never met otherwise. And I almost feel I should thank the websites for it. I won’t, because that’s stupid. But you get the idea. I didn’t set out writing this post to do what I’m about to do, but I feel that it’s a good way to carry it on. Here goes.

Lizzy – I’m amazed at how long we followed one another on twitter before we started talking, but I’m so glad we did. You’re one of the most incredible people I know, and I can’t thank you enough for being there for me when I’ve had to moan about something or when I’ve needed advice. I can only hope that I’ve been as helpful to you as you’ve been to me. Thanks for being the person I can talk to about anything, and I’m looking forward to buying you that Starbucks I owe you.

Abby – Where do I even start. Everything from the first messages on tumblr to our late night (for me) socially unacceptable kik conversations, I always enjoy talking to you. I feel like I know you better than I know some of my friends, and even though you’re slowly converting me into a Directioner (I vomited a little bit writing that) you’re a truly outstanding person. You look kind of like Taylor Swift, too. Thanks for everything and I can’t wait to see Keeshono in concert when I’m in New York next summer.

Dana – Just like with Abby, it sucks that you’re the other side of the Atlantic. I love that you say things how they are, and it’s not rare to end up laughing manically when I’m in a conversation with you. You’re also very talented when it comes to your British accent and ability to turn everything into something related to sex. Well done for that one 😉 Seriously though, you’re amazing. Don’t change.

Stephen – I can remember tweeting once that it’s more fun to follow people your own age on twitter, and remember you replying to that. Ever since, I can’t take that tweet back enough. You’re one of the nicest guys I follow, and it’s an honour to be able to call you my friend. You’re never short of something interesting to say, and talking to you is a thoroughly enjoyable experience. Keep the tweets coming, mate – and next time we’re in the same place we’ll go and get that beer.

Obviously there are more, but these four people are the front runners. If you’re not on here then a) you’re probably not reading this anyway, and b) don’t take it personally because I probably still think you’re incredible.

So yeah. That’s why I love these websites. You speak to amazingly interesting people and have conversations that would never have happened without the use of your accounts. That, and you can complain about your friends and family and they’ll never find out about it. Everybody needs that once in a while.

Twitter, tumblr, wordpress, pinterest… they’re more than just blogs. They’re social tools to take you to worlds outside of the one you live in with people you wish you knew in person. There’s much more to life than your iPhone twitter app, but updating your status can turn into something so much more than telling people you don’t know stuff that nobody cares about.